Turning 25, Adulting and Avoiding a quarter-life crisis 💫
There comes a point when a girl stops being a little less “excited” about her birthdays, because it usually brings up her age, which meant she’s getting ~older~. For me, it was 22. After the year that iconically has a right-of-passage-song attached to it (if you’ve been living under a rock, Google Taylor Swift’s 22), I feel like my age has stopped and I’m forever22, and I’m no longer aging LOL Now that I’m 25 this May 25, I wanted to share my thoughts about how I’m currently handling adulting and how I’m trying to avoid a quarter-life crisis, in the best possible way I could think of, by doing a fun shoot of course! 💁🏻♀️️
I could still remember, when I was 7 years old, I said to my mom that I couldn’t wait to turn 20 and already be a young adult. She replied to me with a sigh, “wag kang nagmamadali anak, you won’t notice how fast time will pass by.” At that time, I didn’t understand how that could be pagmamadali, as in my mind, turning 20 was like so so so so long from where I was before. But, come my 18th birthday, I had a traditional debut celebration here in the Philippines, 18 roses and all, that’s when I realized what mom had said. That’s when life was starting to shift gears and pick up the pace a lil bit faster.
18 was the year I decided to shift courses. From BS Applied Physics, I decided I wanted to do something else in my life. I just couldn’t see myself in that path. A little back story – I only took up Applied Physics cuz it was a premed course in UP Manila, and I had an inclination to medicine, but again, I just couldn’t imagine myself in that path anymore. I was always inclined to the arts. But I wanted a course that would challenge me (ohh and challenge me it did!) in terms of it not only being purely arts. I wanted it to have math and science too. That’s why I chose BS Architecture!🌃
Okay, fast forward, I successfully shifted to UP Diliman, but there was a little bump in the road… Actually, it wasn’t little. It felt like a big mountain that I had to hike over! Even though I passed all of my subjects from my first two years in Applied Physics, I had to go back to first year since Archi semesters required to have 1 Design class per semester, and they didn’t allow them to have 2 or more in each sem! I WAS SHOOKT I TELL YA!! 😱Going in, I thought I could take all of these archi subjects together, but imagine my surprise during the general assemble when the College Secretary was explaining this. WHY wasn’t this explained to us when we were shifting???
Come December of my first year in Archi, that’s when I first started to feel it. The heavy feeling of being “late” in life. I know, it may seem OA for some, but really, it was so hard! You see your HS batchmates start to post grad pics of themselves (DLSU peeps have 3 year courses, and technically this is my 3rd year in college, so that’s why they’re already posting grad pics) and you’re here, restarting your 1st year, one can’t help to feel a little miserable (add to the fact that you’re still finding yourself amidst the design insecurities that one might have, as expected of any art course!)
Fast forward again to third year aka hell year, and then fifth year which was thesis year, both years were difficult, the latter being the toughest! But I managed to graduate with flying colors and even bag a latin honor 💁🏻♀️
It was the start of a new chapter for me. Sure, it may have taken more pages compared to others, but I wouldn’t tear off any page from those added 2 years in my life. If it weren’t for those years, I wouldn’t have met the people that are close to me right now, I wouldnt have experienced all of the fun things I enjoyed in college with them, and as cliche as it may sound, those years gave me character building.
Adulting is a whole ‘nother level from college guys. In fact, I can’t say that I’m already 100% adulting. I’m still under the gracious house of my parents, so I don’t have to pay my own rent, electricity and water. But it’s the start of making a conscious effort of trying to make ends meet.
As a fresh grad of Architecture in the Philippines, I’m so mad at our industry. I know not everybody knows this but, architects are already so under appreciated in our country, imagine how they treat those who haven’t had their boards yet? (archi grads are required to take 2 years of ~working experience~ before being able to take the boards) It’s a sad pill to swallow, but we have to keep moving forward. One step at a time. I’m currently taking it one day at a time and keeping my eye on my next target, which is the boards gahhhh it gives me so much anxiety thinking about it! 😭😅😂
With all of these things, come turning 25, you’d start to think about exactly where your life is going… is this the right path? Am I on time? Can I save enough money to buy my own house by the time that I turn 30? Will I have enough savings for my future wedding?? CHZ 😂 And if you really delve into these questions, you’d start to have what we millennials like to call, a quarter life crisis! 🙃
Sure, it’s good that you’re thinking about these things and planning ahead, but the moment that your thoughts become toxic and it paralyzes you, that’s when it becomes worrisome. Don’t dwell on your problems. Try to make concrete steps on how you’re going to solve them. No matter how big or small each step may be, it’s still a step towards growth and self betterment!
Generally speaking here are my big goals for now, finish my 2 years of work experience, and pass the boards. After that, I’m still planning what to do next. As for my little steps, I learned to take care of myself more and not be too hard on myself.
1. Give yourself a breather
After graduating, if you have the time and means, give yourself a break before starting to find a job. I’m glad I had one, and all of my friends who immediately started working regretted not having one. It was the perfect way to detox and recharge yourself. And if you’re already working now, do give yourself breaks where you get to relax and not stress about anything! Life’s not all work.
2. Do what you love
In that period of break, try to do as many things that you love! Hobbies and activities that excite you. Things that you didn’t have time when you were focused on your studies during college. For me, it was my b/vlogging. There were busy months wherein some of my friends and family thought I’ve fully taken on the b/vlogger life because of the back to back events, but as much as I’d love to, I know I wanna be an architect someday, so that’s my main focus. And now that I’m working, I try to squeeze in my hobbies every now and then to make each week happier and more exciting. You have to have something to look forward to!
3. Take care of your body – Physically
Having 8 hours of sleep, eating healthy and exercising regularly can make all the difference to your mind and body! Okay so this part, admittedly I’m having a hard time as well. Having 8 hours of sleep is a struggle for me as I’m always busy, I try to eat as healthily as possible so that’s why I bring baon to work so I don’t have to buy fast food, and as for exercising, I’m too tired after work that I don’t have time for it anymore. My goal now is to incorporate these more in my life and be a better version of me. Who says resolutions are only for new years?
4. – And emotinally/spiritually
Now, I don’t want to sound all preachy, but I really do find peace whenever I talk to God. During those toughest times, I always prayed to Him and asked for his guidance and holy spirit to help me find my way. If you find going to church isn’t your thing, try to find a quite and safe space where you can meditate. Clear your mind and just release all the negative energy.
5. Celebrate yourself!
Self love isn’t selfish! Give yourself a pat in the back. You worked so hard, don’t wait for anyone’s appraisal. Treat yo self. With your fave food, drink, movie, or anything actually (in my case, a fun shoot with a creative photographer and hmua team hi josh, danica and camille 💁🏻♀️)
I hope my MMK blog post of my quarter life crisis helped you in any sort of way! If you related to it in some way, I hope you get to apply my simple steps onto being and feeling better 💖 Love lots, Tellemaywhy.